Wednesday, June 25, 2008

Looking In The Mirror


Claudia posted a really great list of things she loves about herself today. I said to myself "Self. That's a great idea for a post! You should do that!". And then, when I sat down to make my list I realized that I could not think of anything about myself that I love. That is really sad. Now, don't get me wrong, once I really started to do the whole self examination thing, I thought of stuff. I do love myself. But the fact that it took me most of the day to come up with things is what bothers me. The fact that the first things to come to mind were all things that I did NOT like....

I think that lots of women do this to themselves. This self-hatred. I can come up with TONS of things about myself that I need to change or work on in one way or another. But to think of things I love.... I had to really think about it. Why do we do this to ourselves? This constant focus on what is wrong with ourselves and what needs to be "fixed"? Why can't we just accept ourselves for who we are and love ourselves regardless?

I will post my "love" list when I can get it together. When I can sit down and REALLY look into the mirror of my soul and find out what makes me hum.

Right now... I need to go play with my sons.


Claudia said...

Ohhh, honey, you need to take a deep breath and think about it about the way you make friends so easily, or the way you can weave words in to a perfect poem, or how wonderful of a wife and mother you are....the list goes on and on...not to mention your smile...and your sauciness and sense of humor! Come now, I expect to see this post soon, you can do it, I KNOW you can. Tomorrow, I am going to post ten things I HATE about myself. THAT should be funny.

I love you. OK...

Wonderful World of Weiners said...

I make you pee in your pants sometimes...thats a good thing right?


Nana The Nana said...

I think part of the problem is that when you are a mother of young children there is no time for yourself. Therefore you cannot think of things like that. Your whole being exists for them and their care. It will get better, and in the meantime read what claudia said over and over again! I love you.

Bina said...

The first one you should have put on there was "I love that I'm a great mother and my children love me".

See, that's easy! But yes, I do understand. One of my therapy projects was to list things I like about myself and at the time, I could think of nothing. I either didn't like me or I thought it was conceded to admit I did.

Make the list. You will be surprised at yourself!